i have a really strong crush on a teacher, and it’s causing a lot of awkwardness. i blush when he compliments me on my work, and i visit his office WAY too much. how do i manage this?
its natural and cute. don’t feel ashamed.
you have to be aware that he is an adult and that you cannot pursue him because that is innapropriate.
if he returns the crush that is even more innapro.
but don’t feel ashamed, just don’t go looking for a relationship
Have you ever thought about not being able to have children, because you are gay? You could always adopt…but dont you want to have a kid that is half you and half your partner? How do you feel about this?
thats so interesting. ya know i will cross that bridge.
i think having options are the best part of being a human. part of me wants my own but another wants to help a kid in need.
so many options. all valid.
I’m absolutely 100% mentally dependent on smoking marijuana, and need to cut down but I can’t. I also can’t tell my parents, should I seek help? It’s really starting to seem out of control when Im not high, but no one can know
you need serious help. you have admitted it so that is the crucial first step.
So, I’m trying to pick a new facebook default. And it’s like really important to me because i’m friending people from college and stuff. but basically, i dunno if i should put my boyfriend or my bff’s in my pic. the thing is, my boyfriend has like a really big nose and isn’t that attractive in the pictures, but my friends are GORGEOUS and i dont think i look that good next to them. please dont judge me i know it sounds stupid but it’s really important to me.
choose one where you look your best, preferably by yourself.
the less people in the pic, the more independent and confident you appear.
also, cropping is perfectly acceptable
how do you (nicely) tell your friends that the things they say are obnoxious? some of my friends love to talk about how wasted they were and other dumb decisions, and it just makes them sound stupid and I don’t want to hear it.
well you can either show how annoyed of it you are or turn it into a joke.
mock them when they do it, show them how annoying it really is.
I don’t want to be cocky, but I would say I am pretty popular. I have SO many friends. I can’t walk through the halls without pretty much everyone stopping to talk to me. Everyone loves me and wants to be my friend. That being said, I feel like I don’t have any super close friends. I have plenty of friends who I can sort of toss around like it doesn’t matter. But I still feel so alone in this world. I have no one to listen to me, no one to just talk to. What should I do?
you can always talk to me! haha, no but really, you have to find what you truly want in a friend.
if someone you currently associate with fits aspects of your ideal friend latch closer to them.
what would jesus do?
So back in October, this girl and I had started talking. Her friends told me she wanted to hook up with me. We literally talked everyday for about a month, texting all the time. At this point, I liked her, and she came off like she liked me. Then when we finally hooked up, things fell apart. She stopped replying to my texts, and things became awkward between us. Her friends told me she didn’t want to hook up anymore, and when I texted her while drunk one night, I like told her how I still felt, and she basically said that she didn’t have time for a boy. I really can’t get over her, and I keep thinking that theres a possibility we can reignite what we once had, but I think this is just restraining me from other opportunities and causing me pain. How am i supposed to get over her?
realize that her rejection for you is just a redirection. she wasn’t THE ONE or THE RIGHT NOW. if you just focus on the other options you’ll slowly but surely get over her.
I’m jealous of my friends. I’ve never had a girlfriend before, and I’ve never kissed a girl. I don’t know how my friends are so successful. I’m like the one person at the party who’s single. When meeting new girls, they don’t take much interest in me compared to a couple of my friends. Do you have any tips? I’m not so sure if this is a physical attraction issue.
you just need to let your personality be as transparent. if you have friends there should be some girl that appreciates that. maybe not where you are currently but somewhere in your life!
I have a crush on a guy that is just like me but not like me at all. Most people think he has a crush on me too. We listen to the same music, like the same things, and wear similiar clothes. We do have alot to talk about, should we get the chance to have a conversation. But his and my friends are not the same. He is part of that “popular” crowd, and its all douchebags and people who make fun of the people IM friends with, while I come from more of a less exclusive group. We have one class together and get to talk then, but of course thats not alot, seeing as the teacher needs to teach. We dont really get a chance to interact otherwise, and hes not very responsive online. But he still seems interested, I cant really explain the vibe me and my friends get. We could really be good together, I know, or at least good friends, but I dont really know how to approach it. Sometimes hes right there, other times he seems to pull back. Sorry this is so long, but I guess I just want someone outside the situations thoughts. Thank you and have a wonderful Christmas, Jahari :]
you should try being a little more overtly flirtatious. don’t bring up the different social groups until he wants to. if it doesn’t bother you it shouldn’t bother him
I steal all the time. I steal everything. I steal for me, and also gifts for other people. I used to do it out of nessicitiy, but now I feel I cannot stop. It has become a part of my personality, most people think its funny, or they just associate me with thievery. When I express concern about it, they often laugh it off. But when faced with the reality of everything I have gotten through theft, I am torn. I dont want to steal anymore, I believe its bad karma and will get me into trouble soon, but I cant bear to think of losing all the luxieries I have aquired through it. Help!
you need serious help, i wish i could help you but i am not trained in that aspect of psychology sorry.
I am extremely unorganized. My room is a mess, I can never find any of my school work, and I lose EVERYTHING, including expensive/important things. How can I fix this? Thanks.
set up like designated areas in your room for stuff.
create constructs and and boundaries for yourself.
write lists, make reminders.
So, I’m an taking all honors at Staples and it’s getting really stressful for me. and i have this guy teacher, and he’s been sending me signs that maybe he’s into me. i know i would get a better grade in the class if i returned the flirting, but it just feels wrong. what should i do?
eh, make sure you aren’t reading into a nice teacher. this is a serious accusation and can really hurt a teachers rep.
on the same token, you are clearly intelligent, prostituting your good looks and charm underminds how smart of a person you are.
think wisely but i believe you are smarter than you are giving yourself credit.
now if you notice you not taking to his advances causes problems in the classroom you should report him